Women needs hugs – all the time! It is the emotional stabiliser required to secure our foundations. It re-enforces our belief in ourselves, our deeds, our looks, our views. I know, I know, women nowadays are strong self-fulfilling hard-asses who can hang out anywhere and make it work. But seriously, if you are in a relationship and the hugs and cuddles stop, it is devastating. Your self-confidence plummets and you question everything! Do you remember when you were little and you did something wrong your parents, while angry with you, still showed you they loved you with a kiss or a cuddle? The awful parents withheld their love, as though it was the ultimate reward for being good, quiet, hard-working… It was something that had to be earned. When your guy starts to withhold affection – or just doesn’t plain realise how important it is – it feels as though you’ve failed, that something is lacking – that you’re no longer good enough! It is demoralising and starts the snowball rolling. Arguments ensue, followed by long periods of non-communication, tempers flare higher, slights are seen in every word, gesture and look. Where before a cutting or sarcastic statement might have been laughed away it sprouts instead another quarrel.
For the sake of a cuddle the smile was lost, for the sake of a smile the joy was lost, for the sake of joy self-confidence was lost, for the sake of self-confidence sense of humour was lost….
From horseshoes to countries and kisses to relationships. Women and men need many things. But it all starts with an affirmation of affection from their partner, that it still exists. For women that affirmation requires a quick kiss, cuddle, note – the more unexpected the better.
It’s only my opinion. I am a woman…
…that needs cuddles!